Lovense Lapis vs Strap-on-Me 3 Motors: App or Remote Control?
The Lovense Lapis and the Strap-on-Me 3-Motor Remote Control Vibrating Strap-on both answer the same need: hands-free penetration with a double-ended dildo that vibrates on both sides. Both brands claim three motors and a flexible neck, but they don’t control their product in the same way: a connected app for Lovense, a physical remote for Strap-on-Me. We have tried neither product: this comparison simply sets side by side what each manufacturer states on its own product page.
What each brand claims
| Criteria | Lovense Lapis | Strap-on-Me 3-Motor Remote Control Vibrating Strap-on |
|---|---|---|
| Format | Strapless double-ended dildo, stated length 230 mm, circumferences 122 and 120 mm | Strapless strap-on with an egg-shaped part, three sizes offered (M, L, XL) |
| Motors and zones | 3 motors, separately controllable according to Lovense; G-spot, clitoris and vulvar area via textured ridges | 3 motors per Strap-on-Me: tip (G/P-spot), egg-shaped part, base (clitoris) |
| Control | Lovense Remote app, short- and long-distance control | Rechargeable remote, one button per motor, stated range up to 10 m |
| Stated features | Unlimited vibration patterns, music sync, sound activation, customisable levels | 3 vibration modes, +/- intensity adjustment, LED indicators, shape-memory technology |
| Waterproofing | IPX7 rated, shower use mentioned | Not specified |
| Battery life / charging | Up to 156 min of use, 105 min charging time, up to 120 h standby | About 40 min of use, up to 120 min charging; remote stated at 20 h |
| Material and weight | Silicone, 315 g, Li-polymer battery | Not specified |
| Harness | Lovense harness sold as an accessory, compatible with the Lapis and other dildos | Compatible only with the Harnais Unique, according to Strap-on-Me |
App-based control versus a remote with limited range
This is the clearest difference between the two product pages. Strap-on-Me describes a rechargeable remote with a dedicated button for each motor, LED indicators to show which motor and mode are active, and a stated range of up to ten metres. Control is therefore immediate and physical, but limited to the same room. Lovense, on the other hand, states that the Lapis is controlled via the Lovense Remote app, for both short- and long-distance use: the page explicitly mentions the option of handing control over to a partner “regardless of distance,” as well as music sync and sound-activated vibrations. Two different approaches: a standalone unit on one side, a software ecosystem on the other. No app is mentioned on the Strap-on-Me page.
Stated battery life: a significant gap on paper
Both brands publish figures, which allows for a direct comparison. Strap-on-Me’s FAQ states a maximum charging time of 120 minutes for about 40 minutes of use, with the remote stated to last 20 hours. Lovense states that the Lapis offers up to 156 minutes of use, 105 minutes of charging time, and up to 120 hours of standby. Based on these manufacturer figures, the Lapis therefore claims a longer session for a shorter charging time. Note that these manufacturer values generally correspond to usage conditions that neither page specifies: the intensity level chosen and the number of active motors inevitably affect real-world results.
Multiple sizes versus detailed dimensions
Strap-on-Me builds part of its pitch around size choice: M is presented as suited to beginners and sensitive bodies, L for those already familiar with strap-ons, and XL as the longest and widest version. However, the page gives no numerical measurements for these sizes, nor any material information. Lovense, by contrast, offers a single size but states precise figures: 230 mm in length, circumferences of 122 and 120 mm, 315 g on the scale, and a silicone construction. Depending on your needs, Strap-on-Me’s approach lets you adjust the fit, while Lovense’s lets you know exactly what to expect before ordering.
Waterproofing, harness, and accessory compatibility
Lovense states an IPX7 rating for the Lapis and mentions use in water as well as easier cleaning. Strap-on-Me’s page gives no waterproofing rating at all: nothing can be inferred either way. As for support, both brands offer a harness sold separately, but under different rules. Strap-on-Me specifies that its 3-motor strap-on is only compatible with the Harnais Unique, designed to fit the egg-shaped base. Lovense presents its harness as compatible with the Lapis as well as other dildos, which gives more flexibility if you already own other equipment. Both pages also describe a flexible neck meant to adjust the penetration angle.
Three motors, two ways to control them
Both products claim three motors spread across the same areas: an insertable tip aimed at the G-spot or P-spot, an internal part worn by the person penetrating, and a base in contact with the clitoris. Strap-on-Me details motor-by-motor control from the remote, with three vibration modes and two intensity buttons. Lovense also states separate control of the three motors, but through the app, with a number of vibration patterns described as unlimited and customisable levels. So the difference lies less in the mechanical design than in the granularity of control and the interface: physical buttons on one side, pattern-building on a smartphone on the other. These remain manufacturer claims, not measurements.
Where the 3-Motor Remote Control Vibrating Strap-on stands out
Strap-on-Me is the only one of the two brands to offer three sizes, from M to XL, with a usage guide explaining who each size is for: a real advantage if insertable length or diameter matters to you. Its physical remote avoids any reliance on a smartphone, app, or account, and its stated 20-hour battery life far exceeds that of the dildo itself. Finally, the Harnais Unique is designed specifically for the egg-shaped base, which the brand presents as a guarantee of secure fit.
Lapis or 3-Motor Remote Control Vibrating Strap-on: which one to choose?
The Lovense Lapis — The Lapis will suit those who want app-based control with remote access, music sync and customisable patterns, and who value published specs: silicone, 315 g, precise dimensions, IPX7 rating, and up to 156 minutes of stated use.
The Strap-on-Me 3-Motor Remote Control Vibrating Strap-on — The 3-Motor Vibrating Strap-on is better suited to those who want to choose their size between M, L and XL, or who prefer a physical button-operated remote usable without a smartphone or app, within the stated ten-metre range.
Frequently asked questions
Can both models be used without a harness?
Both brands present their products as strapless models, meaning they can be used without a harness, with the internal part providing the hold. Strap-on-Me even specifies that its product works “with or without a harness.” However, each brand offers a harness as an accessory for extra stability: Strap-on-Me’s is stated to be compatible only with this model, while Lovense’s is stated to be compatible with the Lapis and other dildos.
Which of the two can be taken into the shower?
Only Lovense addresses this: the Lapis page states a waterproof design with an IPX7 rating and mentions play in the shower or in water. The 3-Motor Vibrating Strap-on page gives no waterproofing information at all, no rating, no guidance. In the absence of data, it’s best to stick to the manual provided by Strap-on-Me rather than assume any resistance to submersion.
Does remote control work outside the room?
For Strap-on-Me, the remote’s stated range is about ten metres, which limits use to the same room or nearby. Lovense states that the Lapis offers both short- and long-distance control via the Lovense Remote app, with the option of handing control to a partner who is far away. This is the structural difference between a radio-based remote and app-based control.